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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 9:11 am    Post subject: Handshake etiquette Reply with quote

At work we're meeting some vendors and I shake two hands firmly and the 3rd guy's handshake is like shaking hands with a bowl of wet noodles, all sweaty and soft and disgusting. (that was for you lollar!)

I'm a woman but uhhh you don't have to shake all limp, and please wipe your damn hand if you're nervous! No one wants your sweaty hand on them. Afterward, my coworkers and I talked about that guys shake, how bad it was.

So is it wrong to tell someone, like a personal friend or a family member, that they have a terrible handshake and to help them correct it? I mean that's an important thing when trying to get a job and stuff sometimes. Or is it a touchy subject like having BO or bad breath?

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 9:28 am    Post subject: Re: Handshake etiquette Reply with quote

taku wrote:
So is it wrong to tell someone, like a personal friend or a family member, that they have a terrible handshake and to help them correct it? I mean that's an important thing when trying to get a job and stuff sometimes. Or is it a touchy subject like having BO or bad breath?


If a friend has any of those things... I'll tell them.
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 9:48 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I hate when someone tries to give the death grip of dominance, or if you get their fingers only, wtf is that! And if they don't look you in the eyes when they shake it shows weakness, lol. So many types of handshakes out there... the people who go to church every week or have a sales job probably know the most about this topic.

Another one is when they modify their handshake strength in the middle... makes it feel like a challenge.

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 9:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

stink palm is the worst...


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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 9:56 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

if you get fingers only then you closing your grip too soon.
i usually feel out the situation and try and give the same firmness back.
nothing beats shaking some old guys hand and then they just stay holding on to your hand while talking to you. sh!ts lame.

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 10:00 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

^^ haha I forgot about that one, holding onto your hand for a long time while grilling you in the eye is the worst.
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 10:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

What about when people get their left hand involved and do the double. It's like they but your hand in a cage or something.
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 10:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

FYI -- the two handed shake is for funerals and condolences. Don't use it on clients. It's bad form.

A proper handshake is very key. Firm but not painful. A weak sweaty handshake is lame.

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 10:31 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

what is your technique on shaking hands with a woman?
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 10:38 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

taku, i think handshakes are really important and show a lot about a person.
when i shake hands with a women i give the same grip i would with a man but a lighter pump.
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 10:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

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what is your technique on shaking hands with a woman?

a firm grasp of the a$$..........Laughing

Firm shake....but adjusted based height, weight, and looks.

I pretty much have soft bannana-mits for hands, so when I shake a woman's hand, it pretty much disappears.

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 11:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

sometimes the greeters at church just barley grab my hand and dont even shake it Mad Laughing
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 11:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

the guy with the wet hand probably just washed his dick hand, which is the one used for holding it while you pee. maybe he didn't dry it well enough. joking aside, i agree that handshakes are very important. not so much the firm/limpness of one, but the fact that when you meet someone for whatever reason it shows that person you have respect for them. etiquette 101
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 12:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's interesting to me the differences in gender roles and hand shaking. I guess I think about it more because of my gender.

What is irritating is when I'm with a few people (normally males) and we meet someone new and they'll shake all the guys hands but then not offer to shake mine. It doesn't happen often, but it's happened to me several times. It's mad disrespectful but I dont' take it personal. In this case I will offer to shake theirs after it's evident they weren't going to, but I don't know if it's because they don't respect women, or if they have bad etiquette, or if they just feel uncomfortable. Then again most women aren't the hand shake types I guess so this could be confusing.

Very rarely will another woman offer to shake with me first, unless she's an open and non-shy person usually. So I offer and usually get the cold girl hand in return. It's easy to tell the women who are likely intimidated, because they'll never offer the hand first and if they do they won't look me in the eye.

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 12:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

my hand shake with women depend on the situation...

if its business like they get a shake just like i would an employee or employer... firm and professional

if its a bar or something its usually less firm (but not weak/limp lol), i usually hold it a bit longer, and less pumps...

if i just want to get away from the woman cause shes annoying or smells or something i lick my hand stick it in my pants then go for the handshake... if she pulls her hand back in disgust i then rub my hand all over her face then run away yelling and laughing maniacally lol

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 12:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I do the last one a lot... I just never meet girls that are the hand shake type..... where do they hide?
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 2:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

i can always tell alot about a person just by the initial hand shake.... its sad.. but so true. I get so pissed when i shake some week limp girly hand...
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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 3:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

taku wrote:
What is irritating is when I'm with a few people (normally males) and we meet someone new and they'll shake all the guys hands but then not offer to shake mine.

I do this all the time. Never looked into the etiquette of handshaking before, but my thought has always been that shaking hands is more of a masculine form of greeting. If I do shake hands with a female, especially one older than myself, I usually will hold their hand in a more classic way - turned slightly and holding the fingers, no pumps... hard to describe, but think of a queen holding out her hand for a subject.
Keep in mind I don't meet people in a professional business setting and couldn't give two shìts how my handshake is judged.

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 5:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Normally the only time i handshake is when I meet people down here at school, so it's college kids. Other than friends parents, who always get a nice firm shake, but not too tight.

I normally hug girls or something when I meet them.

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PostPosted: Apr 22, 2009 5:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I sweat nigga!!!!!

What do you want me to do about it?

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